Here’s What I’m Struggling With Right Now (PS- I Do Not Have It All Together)

what I'm struggling with- Jessica LawlorI want to let you in on a little secret…

I do not have it all together.


A lot of my friends and blog readers often ask me how I manage to “do it all.” That’s a *really* nice and flattering thing to say, but it’s simply not true. I want to make it abundantly clear to the Get Gutsy community that I struggle just like everyone else. I am not superwoman. Everything does not come easy to me.

This post was very therapeutic to write, but it’s NOT easy to hit publish on and share with the world. After all, I’m laying all my secret and not-so-secret problems and insecurities out on the line, but the truth is, this is reality. I always aim to be honest with the community.

After all, that’s what getting gutsy is all about- doing scary, uncomfortable things in order to grow.  It means being brutally honest and keeping it real. 

Here’s a reminder that even those among us who outwardly look like they’ve got it all together have their own struggles, no matter how big or small.

Here’s what I’m struggling with right now.

Overcommitting my schedule. My single biggest struggle of the moment is that I have severely overcommitted myself for the next few months. My calendar is packed pretty much through November and while many of the events I have scheduled are fun and yes, I’ve chosen them, it’s still overwhelming to not know the next time I can sleep in on a leisurely weekend. I’m working on guarding my calendar a little more closely- one thing I have done is blocked at least two work nights per week for yoga, so that I can at least ensure I keep my sanity and get to class.

Taking on too much. In classic Jessica fashion, I’ve once again taken on way too much. Between my full-time job, blog and freelance work, I’m juggling two leadership positions (one as president of an organization and the other as a VP) and I’m training for a race. I take on these things because I love them and I want to be involved, but I don’t always think about myself and how much time and energy these projects will take when I commit to something.

Prioritization. Along the lines of taking on too much above, I’m letting my priorities slip. For example, my major goal this year is moving my business forward. I’ve picked up new freelance clients and my next goal is to create some kind of guide or ebook to sell here on the Get Gutsy blog. This is priority #1, yet I’ve also committed myself to a ton of other projects that have nothing to do with my big goals. If I want to move my business forward, I need to prioritize accordingly.

Finding a healthy balance. A couple of years ago, I made a huge change in my life to get healthy and lost more than 30 lbs. I’ve kept the weight off, but still struggle with finding a healthy balance between working out, eating right and still making time for fun and time to reach my goals. When I was at the peak of weight loss, I pretty much worked out every morning before work- now that’s my prime time to write and manage my business, so I’m trying to find a way to fit working out in at other times of day. Plus, I also obviously love yoga these days and while it’s been amazing for my body and mind, I know that in order to keep the weight off, I need to run and reintroduce more cardio back into my life. I’m not 100 percent happy with my body right now.

Being single. Gah, this is probably the hardest struggle to open up about because I rarely talk about it with anyone but my close friends. I’ve been single for a long time and go on plenty of bad dates (maybe one day, I’ll write about those!) and to be perfectly honest, it sucks. I have long felt like everything is going pretty well in my life and all the pieces are coming into place with my career, business, health and other goals, but there’s still that one missing piece…it’s especially challenging when I am quite literally the last single person out of ALL my friends. I’m working on being proactive, yet patient at the same time, but it’s not easy.

Saying no. Lately, I’ve been feeling like there’s A LOT of demands for my time and professional expertise. I want to help as many people as I can, but the truth of the matter is, I can’t help everyone. I don’t have all the time in the world and I am running a business. That’s not to say, I won’t share my advice and opinions or give feedback, but for the most part, I’m working hard to decline requests to “pick my brain” or for free advice about starting a blog or freelancing. I’m happy to share the resources I’ve already created (like my freelancing guide and previous posts on starting a blog), but I unfortunately have to start declining requests for my time when they don’t align with my goals.

Email management. My inbox is out of control and to be honest, I’ve made the conscious decision that some emails are just going to have to wait. I’m trying to remind myself that emails are generally other people’s priorities and that I need to handle my own priorities before moving on to other people’s. Don’t get me wrong…I LOVE email. I love hearing from my readers and in general, emails excite me because they are usually full of possibility, but it can be overwhelming at times to see the mail pouring in. My personality type makes me want to reply right away to get it out of my inbox, but email is a constant, so replying right away often just means another reply comes along faster.

WHEW- that felt *really* good. 

Now that I’ve been brutally honest, tell me: what are you struggling with right now? Leave your thoughts in the comments below.

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Start Your Week Right Sunday: Links and Goals

start your week right- Jessica Lawlor

Photo of the week: An absolutely stunning view of my city’s skyline from The Mann Center, where I saw Gavin DeGraw perform last week. Gorgeous Philadelphia!

Start your week right! Every Sunday I post my favorite links from around the web and share my goals for the upcoming week.


On Content:

How The Hell Buffer Creates So Much Content So Quickly: Do you read the Buffer blog? I’m fascinated by the amount of amazing content the team there puts out so I was especially interested in this post by Buffer Content Crafter Kevan Lee.

On Freelancing:

11 Ways To Boost Your Confidence On The Phone To Potential Clients: If you dread talking on the phone to potential clients, this piece by Karen Marston for the How To Be Freelance Blogger blog is super useful. I especially like her thoughts on the dreaded moment of silence.

Get Published On High Traffic Sites: 5 Steps To Using Help A Reporter Out (HARO): I use awesome tool Help A Reporter Out (HARO) all the time at work, but Cat Alford’s guest post for Careful Cents got me thinking about how I can use it for my Get Gutsy blog/brand.

On Online Dating:

Don’t Know What To Write In Your Online Dating Profile? Try This: Writing an online dating profile can be super challenging (believe me, I know). Alexandra Frazen offers up a series of fill-in-the-blank sentences to help bring your profile to life. PS- I think these tips could also apply to creating an amazing About Page for your website.

On Goals:

5 Signs You’re Ready To Turn Your Goals Into a Reality: Have big goals? These five signs from Ashley at Your Super Awesome Life will let you know if you’re ready to tackle them.

On Public Relations:

Three Simple Ways to Take PR 101 To The Next Level: I recently jumped at the opportunity to write a guest post for my very favorite PR blog- Spin Sucks. I tackled the topic of taking those generic PR 101 type tips I hear regurgitated over and over again at PR conferences to the next level to make an even bigger media splash.

This Week on

The Simple Email Strategy I’ve Implemented For One Week With Major Results: Trying to grow your email list? Here’s the simple email marketing strategy I’ve implemented for just one week with major results.


  • Run three times this week. I’m “training” (I use that term very loosely) for the Philly 10K in September and need to get my stamina for running back up.
  • Begin planning for a BIG project I plan to launch this October- stay tuned!

Have any links or goals you’d like to share? Leave them in the comments!

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