What Are You Going To Choose: Fear or Trust?

fear or trust- Jessica Lawlor“Anything that looks like chaos and calamity in your life is just the Universe’s way of saying ‘Trust me and we’ll make a life together that is beyond your wildest dreams.’ The key is to trust. There’s a bigger vision and purpose inside you that your small brain or ego can imagine. The Universe has bigger and better plans for you. It’s your job to be of service and not get in your own way. You can only receive what you believe. When you trust, you open yourself up to greater possibilities outside of your control or imagination. So what’s it going to be? Fear or trust?” 

Some days I feel like I have complete control over my destiny. I have the keys to the car, I am in the driver’s seat and I know exactly how to get to my destination.

Other days I feel like no matter what I do, no matter how perfectly I plan, I am at the mercy of the universe…and it has far greater plans for me than I have for myself.

Maybe that’s not such a bad thing.

The key here, I think, is to choose trust. Trust that good things will happen. After all, if you believe in the law of attraction, those positive thoughts about the future bring about more positivity.

Trust that good things will happen, yes, but also PLAN for good things to happen.

Work hard. Set goals. Dream.

But be prepared to let those things go when life takes an unexpected turn. Don’t be afraid to sit back and say, “Hey, universe? You got this one?”

As a Type A, I like the idea of being in control. Neat, tidy to-do lists, perfectly scheduled calendars, three-month plans, six-month plans, five-year plans.

But you know what else I like? I sort of love the idea that, as stated so beautifully in the quote above, “There’s a bigger vision and purpose inside you that your small brain or ego can imagine.”

How amazing is that concept? Yes, you may have plans for yourself, but some larger force out there (religious, spiritual, emotional, whatever) has big plans for you. It’s exciting.

Don’t be afraid to embrace uncertainty. Shake fear’s hand and say, “Hello, nice to meet you, but I’m doing just fine over here, thank you.”

When life gets crazy, when my perfectly plotted plans go awry and when I feel I have zero control or say in my future, I’m choosing trust. (Because, come on, really…who CHOOSES fear?)

Let’s discuss: do you trust that some force out there has a bigger plan for you than you have for yourself?

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Start Your Week Right Sunday: Links and Goals

start your week right- Jessica Lawlor

Photo of the week: A rainy, but still stunning New York City scene, captured right before the Shorty Awards at the NY Times building on Monday night.

Start your week right! Every Sunday I post my favorite links from around the web and share my goals for the upcoming week.


On Freelancing:

Finding Your Dream Clients: Photographer Jessica Hammond shares this smart post about sticking to your vision and choosing the right clients, even if that means turning people down when they aren’t a good fit for your goals.

On Branding:

Why You Shouldn’t Hire a Copywriter- Yet: My friend Amy Chick is kicking butt with her new blog and is launching a series all about brand story development. PLUS, when you sign up for her new email list, you get an amazing About Page template and workbook.

On Change:

Five Reasons to Embrace Change: If you have a case of wanderlust like I do, Liz Carlson’s Young Adventuress blog is a must-read with gorgeous travel photos, stories and much more. This post on why we need to embrace change is just what I needed to read this week.

Letting Go: Great minds…coincidentally, this week my friend Lauren Cox and I both write about letting go on our blogs. I also want to point out another fantastic post Lauren recently wrote about never missing the opportunity to network.

On Dating:

Online Dating: First Date Tips: My good friend (and fellow Philly girl) Emily from the Her Philly blog shares some solid tips for approaching online dating first dates (because let’s face it…they can be super awkward). As a single lady in the city, I can appreciate these tips.

This Week on JessicaLawlor.com:

Letting Go Of The Things That No Longer Serve You: I’m calling BS on the things I’ve been “holding onto.” Here’s a list of 20+ things I’m letting go of to live a more happy, joyful and passionate life.


  • Wrap up my free personal branding bootcamp sessions that I gave away to the first seven people who signed up for my video freelancing course. It has been so much fun to chat more in-depth about personal branding with those interested in improving their presence. I’m thinking of offering this as a regular service here on the site in the future. Stay tuned!
  • Complete my long run this weekend- 7 miles. I’ve been slacking on Broad Street Run training, but if I want to complete the race, I need to do 7 miles this coming weekend and 9 miles the next week. Hold me accountable, people!

Have any links or goals you’d like to share? Leave them in the comments!

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